Does God Change His Mind?



2011 was an exceptional year for me. I was being led by the Holy Spirit to write my first book, I was changing churches, I was hearing from God about my life, my purpose-all of these fabulous things. I even heard from the Lord about my future husband and my future children! What a dream for the single ladies out there!! I wrote all of these things down in my journal and wouldn't you believe, some of those things came to pass.

     What a miracle to see God show up like that. But something happened that I didn't expect to. It appeared God had changed His mind about that husband of mine.

      In the 6 months after hearing from the Lord, I met who I thought was my husband to be. We prayed, we believed and we were certain this was divine. And it was. It was a divine relationship purposed for my spiritual growth, not marriage.

Can you imagine the disappointment I faced?  I had put my faith in His words, yet in my life it appeared God had changed His mind. It appeared that dream had been delayed and here I was feeling my empty womb.  I was astonished that God would do this to me. I felt like I had been taken for a fool. I was embarrassed. To me, it was the first time I questioned what I heard from God. I began to pray and ask God, "do I let go of these dreams"? "Is it over now"? "What do I do"?

       To be honest, I felt like I was caught in an emotional hurricane that kept pushing me against the rocks and wouldn't let up. It took several days for me to gain enough strength to focus so I could get a word from God. It took several weeks for me to say, "in spite of it all-I still trust you, Lord".

        I write these words today still able to recall the weakness I felt just uttering those words to my Lord in Savior. Not surprised, I heard from God.

Is it Time for Plan B?


       In the midst of discovering God's will for our lives, how many of us can really say we have surrendered to it? We want to know, we want to be led and when we finally get that word from the Lord-some of us find ourselves scratching our heads in disbelief of what happened. Looking back now, I realized I projected my plans onto God's will.  Silly me, why did I do that!?

1. I was living under one very limited definition of what it meant to surrender
my life (love life) to God.

2.  I'm human (give a sista a break).


For just as the heavens are higher than the earth,
so my ways are higher than your ways
and my thoughts higher than your thoughts. Isaiah 55:9,NLT

       Had I really surrendered my love life to Him? I like to think so considering back then surrendering meant allowing Him to lead me in this area of my life. But that was it. Surrendering your will to God's will goes much further then simply being led by His Holy Spirit. It means accepting His Plans when your plan A, B and C fail you. It means surrendering at the risk of your hopes and dreams being shattered perhaps even replaced with something new.

How scary is that?

       What if I told you in taking that risk you are also accepting something better than you ever could have hoped for? That in your journey of surrender you may come to know, love and trust God with everything you have and don't have?

       How many times do we assume we understand God and His ways simply because He speaks into our lives or it becomes apparent through some manifestation-what His will is? Well, let me tell you we get ourselves into a whole heap of trouble when we assume God thinks and feels the way we do.

        Just because it appears your life is out of control or your dreams aren't happening the way you thought it would does not mean it is-it simply means you are not in control.

Do not abort the Dream, just Surrender Control

        I remember very clearly the reality when what I hoped for was not meant to be. It hurt...like hell. But when the tide receded and my eyes dried I was reminded that God had given me a dream, a hope, a promise and God does not change His mind.

God is not a man, so he does not lie.
He is not human, so he does not change his mind.
Has he ever spoken and failed to act?
Has he ever promised and not carried it through? Numbers 23:19,NLT


        I even sunk back in the thoughts that my dreams had been delayed. What a wonderful delight to know they are not: This vision is for a future time. It describes the end, and it will be fulfilled. If it seems slow in coming, wait patiently, for it will surely take place. It will not be delayed- Habakkuk 2:3,NLT.


         I don't know what you could be facing in your life right now. I can't even pretend to know the devastation another person must feel when the reality hits that your life may not look the way you hoped for. For you, it could be divorce, an unexpected diagnosis, career change you never saw coming, or even an untimely death of a loved one. What I can relate to is the feeling of losing control, the feeling of wondering "what is God doing in my life"?

        Can I offer a suggestion? Perhaps this trial is apart of His plan. God does not change His mind when He speaks a promise into our lives. Though it may take longer than you expected or it doesn't look how you wanted, do not abort the dream. Simply surrender control and have faith. Faith as a small as a mustard seed will do because God knows the pain we feel when we hope for something but have to face reality:

Jesus Prays in Gethsemane-Matthew 26:36-44, NLT

36 Then Jesus went with them to the olive grove called Gethsemane, and he said, “Sit here while I go over there to pray.” 37 He took Peter and Zebedee’s two sons, James and John, and he became anguished and distressed. 38 He told them, “My soul is crushed with grief to the point of death. Stay here and keep watch with me.”

39 He went on a little farther and bowed with his face to the ground, praying, “My Father! If it is possible, let this cup of suffering be taken away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine.”

40 Then he returned to the disciples and found them asleep. He said to Peter, “Couldn’t you watch with me even one hour? 41 Keep watch and pray, so that you will not give in to temptation. For the spirit is willing, but the body is weak!”

42 Then Jesus left them a second time and prayed, “My Father! If this cup cannot be taken away unless I drink it, your will be done.” 43 When he returned to them again, he found them sleeping, for they couldn’t keep their eyes open.

44 So he went to pray a third time, saying the same things again. 45 Then he came to the disciples and said, “Go ahead and sleep. Have your rest. But look—the time has come. The Son of Man is betrayed into the hands of sinners. 46 Up, let’s be going. Look, my betrayer is here!”


In closing, can I offer you prayer? Are you experiencing a Plan B type of situation? Leave your comments below.